3 Strategies for Practicing Generational Intelligence

3 Strategies for Practicing Generational Intelligence

by | Aug 16, 2023

Generational intelligence is a vital skill for church leaders. Generational intelligence is the ability to connect with each generation in a way that honors their unique experiences and perspectives while maintaining a unified mission and identity. When you practice generational intelligence, you effectively bridge the generational gap within a church. You also expand your capacity to lead a multi-generational congregation. In this blog I will explain 3 strategies for practicing generational intelligence.

Before I delve into these practical strategies for meeting the diverse needs and experiences of different generations within a congregation, let me dispel a myth. We like to say that “children are the future of the church”. This is a myth on two levels. One, children or lack thereof are part of the present reality of the church. Two, if adults are not present to provide children support and guidance, then the church will not survive. That’s why understanding how to effectively lead a multi-generational congregation is vital to a growing church.

 

Understanding Generational Differences

The first step to practicing generational intelligence is to understand subtle generational differences. Unique historical events and cultural shifts shape each generation. Let’s take a look at a few examples:

The Greatest Generation, born before 1928, endured the Great Depression and World War II which instilled values of resilience and patriotism.

Baby Boomers, born from 1946 to 1964, lived through the Kennedy assassination, the Vietnam War, and cultural movements like Civil Rights, Gay Pride, and the Jesus revolution. They now face the challenge of balancing current needs with saving for the future.

Generation Y, or Millennials, born between 1981 and 1996, grew up with happily ever-after Disney movies while experiencing the impacts of 9/11, the invasion of Iraq, and the Great Recession. Social networking became a defining aspect of their lives.

Both Gen Z (born from 1997 to 2012) and Generation Alpha (born from 2010 to the present) encounter distinct challenges. They have come of age in the aftermath of events like 9/11, grappling with natural disasters and constant connection to the digital world. Their lives have been shaped by witnessing the global impact of the COVID-19 pandemic and the rise of social justice movements such as Black Lives Matter and March for Our Lives. Their worldview is influenced by extreme weather events, enforced isolation, and an uncertain future. Growing up in socially and politically divided environments, both generations are not inherently learning the value of compromise and cooperation.

By understanding the experiences and influences that shape each generation, you can better minister to the needs of different age groups.

 

3 Strategies for Generational Intelligence

To effectively lead a multi-generational congregation, church leaders must practice these 3 strategies for generational intelligence.

1) Embrace Diversity – Cultivate a church environment that embraces and celebrates a diverse range of opinions, experiences, and backgrounds. That means you’ll need to foster open dialogue, get to know the personal narratives of members, and acknowlede their distinctive contributions. This will go a long way toward valuing the different perspectives of each generation.

2) Seek Out Wisdom – Recognize the wisdom and knowledge that comes with diverse experiences. Seek input from individuals of different generations and actively listen to their perspectives to gain insight into how best to lead a diverse congregation.

3) Foster Intergenerational Relationships – Don’t just work with people similar to you in age. Connect with individuals of all ages and look for ways to build bridges between generations. This could include developing volunteer opportunities that span a range of ages or creating church activities that cater to both young and old alike. Older congregants can connect emotionally to youth by helping teach practical application activities like gardening and social belonging through civic involvement. Young adults can help less tech-savy elders by teaching them how to text, take videos, create avatars, and use new apps.

 

Applying Generational Intelligence

As you prioritize diverse generational perspectives, you are in a better position to reflect on your ministry. To meet the distinct needs of each generation, ask yourself the following questions:

How do the concerns of different generations impact a congregation and shape its culture?

How might each generation perceive God, church, and discipleship?

What perspectives can each generation contribute to the church?

Based on your answers, you now have insight into your next steps.

 

Next Steps

Leading across generations is a challenging but rewarding endeavor. Understanding the perspectives of others can shed light on not just our differences, but our similarities.  This crucial realization can open the eyes of all generations and ease your path to successfully leading a flourishing and healthy congregation.

If you’re seeking more strategies for practicing generational intelligence, let me invite you to my upcoming seminar – How Christian Ministries are Achieving Success: An Introduction to Creating a Culture of Renewal®. This seminar is a golden opportunity to delve deeper into the dynamics of thriving congregations and learn practical tools for fostering a culture of renewal within your ministry.

I look forward to seeing you there.

 

 

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Comfort and Challenge – A Ministry Balancing Act

Comfort and Challenge – A Ministry Balancing Act

by | Aug 1, 2023

Church growth is a complex and multifaceted process, but at its core, it involves creating a skillful balance of comfort and challenge. The art of church growth lies in the ability to present the comforting love of Jesus Christ while simultaneously challenging congregation members to grow in their faith, as well as their commitment to the engagements of the church. This ministry balancing act, offering both comfort and challenge, inspires spiritual growth, fosters community, and facilitates the expansion of the congregation.

Church leaders must understand their congregation and its culture to achieve this balance. For example, a church in an urban area may have members more open to lobbying community leaders and organizations for social change. In contrast, a congregation in a rural area may be more apt to focus on outreach by providing nurturing ministries. Knowing the culture of your congregation allows you to present challenges that are appropriate for your members, making them more likely to respond positively.

 

Inner-Focused and Outer-Focused Ministries

Church ministries generally fall into one of two categories: inner-focused or outer-focused. Inner-focused ministries nurture the congregation from within, while outer-focused ministries extend the church’s influence beyond its walls to tackle societal issues. In Creating a Culture of Renewal® we empower church leaders like you to achieve this essential ministry balancing act between comfort and challenge.

An overemphasis on inner-focused ministries can lead to complacency within the congregation, causing stagnation. This creates an insular community, disconnected from the reality of the world just outside the church’s doors. Conversely, giving attention only to outer-focused ministries may lead to burnout among congregation members, draining them spiritually and emotionally. It can also result in a neglect of the congregation’s spiritual needs.

Echoing Jesus’ example of compassionate mercy and prophetic justice, both types of ministries hold immense importance. By embracing this balance, you pave the way for a comprehensive ministry approach that caters to both congregational needs and broader societal concerns. Here’s how.

 

Balancing Comfort and Challenge Ministries

The rate and severity of natural disasters are increasing around us. You can address the needs of those impacted by natural disasters by using a two-fold approach. First, offer comfort to those hit by a natural disaster – whether flood, fire, hurricane, tornado, mudslide, or earthquake – by meeting their immediate needs. Tap into ministries that create flood buckets, collect first aid supplies, or rebuild homes or churches in the face of these disasters. These expressions of mercy will go a long way toward offering comfort.

Second, address the root causes of natural disasters. For example, flooding is made far worse in developing countries when garbage dumps clog urban drainage systems. Join cleanup efforts to restore unhindered storm water runoff. You can also join tree planting initiatives in deforested areas, thereby preventing future mudslides. Through this long term approach to change, many lives can be saved by restoring Earth’s natural ecosystems.

 

The Need for Balance

A thriving church must have a healthy mix of both comfort and challenge ministries. To hit this sweet spot, take the following six steps:

  1. List your current ministries. Which would you categorize as comfort-oriented (inner-focused or compassionate mercy), and which are challenge-oriented(outer-focused or prophetic justice)?
  2. Is there a notable imbalance between comfort and challenge-oriented ministries? Note which type dominates.
  3. What resources (human, financial, physical, etc.) do you currently have that could be directed toward developing new comfort or new challenge ministries?
  4. Who has skills or experiences that might be beneficial in leading or contributing to these new ministries?
  5. Are there opportunities to partner with other churches or community organizations to enhance your efforts?
  6. Choose one or two ministries to develop that will balance out your mix of ministry offerings.

 

Balancing comfort and challenge ministries will fuel growth, drive positive change, and strengthen connections within your congregation and community.

If you want to learn more about how to lead this kind of change, join me for my upcoming seminar, “How Christian Ministries are Achieving Success: An Introduction to Creating a Culture of Renewal®.” Please share your thoughts in the comments and connect with us for a one-on-one conversation. Let’s embark on this transformative journey together.

 

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How to Lead with Influence and Impact

How to Lead with Influence and Impact

by | Jul 25, 2023

Leadership is an essential aspect of every congregational community. As a leader, you set the tone for how the congregation functions. However, even the most faithful congregation could become divisive, chaotic, or unproductive without effective leadership. One of the often-overlooked characteristics of effective leaders is emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence (EI) refers to how well you manage your own emotions and responses and react to those of others. Leaders with high EI can foster an environment of trust, respect, and cooperation, leading to a harmonious and effective congregation.

All this is to say that an emotionally intelligent leader knows how to lead with influence and impact.

Want to become an emotionally intelligent leader? It all begins with being self-aware of your own emotions and understanding how they impact those around you.

Over the years, I have helped countless people discover how to lead better with emotional intelligence. One of the ways I have done this is by helping leaders develop a deeper sense of self-awareness through the DiSC® model.

This model offers a unique perspective on how you function by examining your ways of being through different behavioral dimensions: Dominance, Influence, Steadiness, and Conscientiousness. Each domain represents a preferred style of behavior, and understanding these preferences can greatly enhance emotional intelligence in the context of your leadership, allowing you to tailor your leadership approach to meet the diverse needs of your congregation.

Let’s explore how emotional intelligence and the DiSC® model work hand in hand to empower congregational leaders and create a thriving community.

 

Strategies for Developing Emotional Intelligence in Congregational Leaders

Like most skills, the good news is that EI can be developed and honed over time. Here are some strategies that you, as a church leader, can use to improve your EI skills:

1) Practice mindfulness and self-awareness to better understand your own thoughts, feelings, and emotions.

Mindfulness and self-awareness are essential to greater understanding of yourself. Instead of reacting to worries or intrusive thoughts, you can observe them. Becoming aware of how your body copes with what you’re feeling helps to acknowledge the feeling with more clarity and embrace better solutions. You learn to understand yourself objectively and nonjudgmentally.

 

2) Understand the emotions of others by practicing active listening, seeking feedback, and managing and regulating emotions-leveraging them to build deep relationships with congregants and community.

If you want to understand the feelings and perspectives of congregants, it’s essential to practice active listening. This decreases assumptions and increases understanding. Plus, it encourages further conversation. Gathering feedback can also help to form an in-depth picture of emotions. A great way to manage and recognize feelings is through emotion regulation. Learning about the nuances of emotions can be beneficial when building relationships with congregants. Leveraging insight into emotions deepens connections and helps eliminate communication obstacles.

 

3) Enhance communication by controlling non-verbal signals and being empathetic towards others.

Developing your capacity for empathy can play an integral role in improving communication. Listening actively to what others are saying without jumping to conclusions can help ensure full understanding between both parties. Controlling nonverbal cues also has a big impact — facial expressions, body posture, and hand motions add meaningful context to conversations and should be considered during exchanges. These unspoken cues are present not just in your direct communications with others, but also in your worship leadership experiences.

 

4) Encourage conflict resolution by creating opportunities for congregants to express themselves and work towards a mutual solution.

Ensuring everyone feels heard and acknowledged is key to effective conflict resolution. Congregants must be able to express their thoughts and feelings freely in a safe space. By doing so, congregations can more easily move toward mutually acceptable solutions. Creating an atmosphere conducive to peace-making is essential. Encouraging community members to work together toward resolution not only helps strengthen relationships and grow trust among peers but will also foster an environment of understanding and unity.

 

Effective leadership is the glue that holds a congregation together. While strong EI skills alone won’t solve all your challenges as a leader, they will go a long way toward creating a harmonious and productive congregational culture. A leader with high EI can communicate and empathize well with their congregants, handle conflict, and build transformative relationships. So, you should strive to cultivate EI in yourself, your colleagues, and the congregation you serve, to deepen your connections and lead more effectively.

If you’re ready to take the next step in developing your emotional intelligence and becoming a fully formed leader, I invite you to explore the power of the DiSC® model further. Join our Creating a Culture of Renewal® cohort where you’ll learn about the DiSC® dimensions and gain valuable insights and practical tools to become an emotionally intelligent leader. Creating a Culture of Renewal® is an award-winning three-year program designed to help you navigate the complexities of congregational leadership and empower you to create a culture of renewal within your community.

Register for our free How Christian Ministries are Achieving Success: An Introduction to Creating a Culture of Renewal® seminar to learn more.

Together, we can create thriving congregations led by emotionally intelligent leaders, who positively impact the lives of those around them.

 

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The Power of Spoken Word in Shaping Congregational Culture

The Power of Spoken Word in Shaping Congregational Culture

by | Jul 10, 2023

Words hold immense power to shape your reality and influence those around you. When it comes to your congregation, the way you communicate can make or break the culture you create. You can unleash the power of words to create a remarkable and thriving environment.

 

The Divine, Church, and Discipleship

Whenever you communicate the faith, you say something about God, the church, and discipleship. Whether you think you are or not. Remember the last sermon or devotional you preached or heard to understand better how your words can have transformational power. Your words have an impact on how the congregation sees themselves and God. You should strive to use language that speaks to your congregants, affirms them, and challenges them towards growth in their faith.

 

The Role of Spoken Words in Congregational Culture

Communication is the most fundamental tool through which leaders and congregants establish relationships, build trust, and foster connection within the congregation. The way language is used can be powerful in uplifting and motivating the congregation or can bring it down and create division. Many may not imagine the weight of their spoken words and how they influence their congregational culture. Spoken words can shape collective thought, inspire change, and motivate the group to act decisively toward certain values, beliefs, and practices.

 

How to Use Words to Foster a Positive Culture

Using words that foster positive culture requires knowing your audience. Leaders must know the language used and how it affects their congregation. Here are some tips for communicating with your congregation:

  1. Connect powerfully by listening first – understand your congregation before responding and build meaningful connections between leaders and followers. To establish powerful connections, it is essential to prioritize listening. Before responding, take the time to understand your congregation truly. Doing so can bridge any existing divides and foster open dialogue through attentive listening and interconnected communications. Embrace the foundation of relationship building by showing genuine curiosity about who they are and how their daily environment operates. This approach enables effective communication and strengthens the bonds between leaders and followers.

 

  1. Master the art of pace – strike the perfect balance between words and silence, giving people time to process your message. Taking a momentary pause can greatly enhance the effectiveness of your message. Mastering the art of pacing and striking the right balance between speaking and silence allows your words to sink in. The speed at which you convey your thoughts can significantly influence how they resonate with others, potentially leading to lasting impressions and driving change. Finding that perfect middle ground bridges communication gaps and allows listeners to absorb and process what you’re saying. So, remember to choose your words carefully and deliver them at the ideal pace.

 

  1. Speak with clarity and brevity – use words that resonate with everyone in your congregation, regardless of age or background. Brevity and clarity can help maintain fluency and focus. Choose your words with care. Make sure they all matter, each having purpose and power to ensure everybody feels something when you communicate. Crafting your language this way enables a connection across the entire room and sends messages into the hearts of those who need it most.

 

A positive environment is key to a healthy and productive congregation. Leaders must intentionally create welcoming, respectful spaces and foster positive communication.

I have seen countless leaders who have a heart for mission and who think strategically but have not yet had the opportunity to learn how to use their words in a way that shapes and strengthens their congregational culture. As leaders, it is our responsibility to be intentional with words chosen, and to strive for clarity of intention in everything that is communicated. In Creating a Culture of Renewal®, you are committed to helping church leaders find their voice and the power of your words. You equip leaders with communication skills that uplift and inspire. God’s message can be effectively conveyed in any congregation with the right words.

If you have a passion like me for effective communication, then let me invite you to my upcoming seminar, How Christian Ministries are Achieving Success: An Introduction to Creating a Culture of Renewal®. It will help you as a leader to use language to shape your congregational culture intentionally. I look forward to meeting you there!

 

 

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The 3 S’s of Creating Community

The 3 S’s of Creating Community

by | Jan 24, 2023

One of the primary responsibilities of church leaders is to create a sense of community among the people in our congregations, on our teams, and in our organization. Likely you won’t find this on any job description, but it is one of the most important functions a pastor plays. It is even more critical in a post-pandemic world. In this article, I will share with you the 3 S’s of Creating Community: being spiritual, being social, and being of service.

 

Congregations are not Necessarily Communities

First, a warning. Congregations are not necessarily communities. Just because a group of people gathers to worship God together does not mean they feel like a community or think of themselves as a community. As the leader, be aware that creating community requires more than gathering and keeping people together. The deepest sense of community comes when people feel connected to each other on more than one level. After all, the church is the web of relationships formed through Jesus’s teaching and ministry. And the only way to do that is through the three S’s. Let’s break down how being spiritual, being social, and being of service promotes connection within our congregations and builds the sense of community.

 

Being Spiritual

The first part of building a sense of community in a congregation is promoting spiritual growth. Spirituality is the deep, unique, and personal relationship between a person and their God. As a person awakens spiritually, they come to understand that they are more than physical beings, they are spiritual beings as well. Just as we must eat to nurture our physical beings, so we must cultivate an intimate relationship with God to nurture our souls. While worship, prayer meetings, Bible study, mission trips, and other activities of a congregation can open a person to spiritual growth, they don’t ensure it. Being spiritual is not a passive activity. It requires honesty and vulnerability with God and oneself. And a willingness to explore one’s inner divinity.

As leaders, we must focus on providing our congregations with opportunities to experience spiritual growth and connection. Cultivating deeper spirituality in your congregation doesn’t mean you, as a leader, need to go and create a bunch of new programs. But it does require moving the focus of what you are already doing to emphasize the spiritual. The simple practice of naming the intent in your gatherings will be enough to help people focus on the presence of the divine. Of course, the more attention you pay to your own spirituality, the easier it will be to create conditions conducive to spiritual growth among your people.

 

Being Social

Cultivating social connections between people is crucial when creating community. Events and gatherings that encourage fun is helpful. This isn’t just for youth groups, either! Fun and laughter among adults open the space for greater trust, and more meaningful conversation.

This can range from casual gatherings, like potlucks or game nights, to formal outings, like retreats or mission trips.

These social gatherings don’t have to be overtly spiritual. Sometimes connection comes from proximity; being physically close together can build trust and deepen relationships. As we look at the gospels, we get a snapshot of Jesus’ interaction with the crowds, religious leaders, and disciples. However, if Jesus’ public ministry lasted for three years, then certainly he spent a lot more time with the disciples than what is recorded. I am sure Jesus spent time socializing with them, sharing meals and laughter, getting to know their stories, and vice versa. Moments of levity often catalyze meaningful relationship growth.

No matter what type of event you plan, fostering an open environment where everyone feels comfortable talking with each other will help build relationships long after the event ends.

As I write in Forging a New Path, I used to think that churches being social wasn’t a high value; that it weakened their primary  identity as followers and ambassadors of Christ. I have changed my mind on that. Without social bonds, people don’t feel like they belong. If they don’t feel like they belong, it’s hard for people to feel the love of God, or to effectively be of service together.

 

Being Of Service

Finally, being of service is essential for creating lasting relationships within any community. The service offered doesn’t have to be huge. It could be as simple as encouraging people to look out for one another, and then giving them opportunities to do it. Lending support when needed will go a long way toward fostering an atmosphere of love and acceptance within your community.

While being of service doesn’t have to be huge to be effective, it is helpful for people to focus on others. All the feel good hormones increase when people undertake acts of service and generosity. Reach inside your community, and outside your community as well.

Think about ways your church or organization can give back. Could you sponsor a Habitat for Humanity house, make a local home more accessible for someone with a disability, or bake cookies for teachers returning to school? These examples are tangible ways to serve and build trust within a community.

The three S’s—being spiritual, being social, and being of service—are essential elements for deepening congregations into communities. Especially in the post-pandemic age.

By creating an atmosphere where everyone feels comfortable connecting spiritually with God and one another while engaging in meaningful relationships through social activities and acts of service, we can make vibrant communities built on love and understanding rather than judgment or competition.

If you want to learn more about how to create a vibrant faith community amid the challenges of church culture, check out my latest book Forging a New Path. In it, I give practical wisdom on how to build the church into a transformational and inclusive community.  To further your learning and help put congregational and community renewal into practice, consider my three year group leadership program, Creating a Culture of Renewal®.

No matter what you do, remember that long-lasting relationships come from creating a safe space where everyone can feel comfortable expressing themselves and connecting with others. So keep the three S’s in mind as you work towards building a thriving faith community!

 

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