Spirituality is the Key to Re-Building Community

Spirituality is the Key to Re-Building Community

In a world where loneliness is rampant but religious affiliation is down, many churches face the urgent question: How do we reach people who are longing for connection and meaning? This blog explores the intriguing possibility that focusing on deepening spirituality is the key to re-building community in the post-pandemic church.

 

What We Are Doing Is Not Sufficient

People have been quietly quitting the church for decades. Even before the pandemic. The spiritual but not religious have been letting us know for years that what the church offers is not sufficient. It is leaving needs unmet. People are looking for something more. Rather than fearing or dismissing the message that the spiritual but not religious have communicated by leaving the church, let’s learn from them instead. They’re signaling the need for a shift in church culture we can all benefit from. That’s why I’m writing about how spirituality is the key to re-building community.

Yet, before we look at how the church can re-build community through spirituality, we need to dispel a common myth. This is the myth that the church already “does” spirituality.

 

The Myth That “We Already Do” Spirituality

Many church worship experiences excel in talking about God, or Jesus, or the Holy Spirit. They tell stories and teach lessons related to God. This is good as far as it goes. However, for many people who are hungry for God, this does not go far enough. There is a difference between talking or singing about God and actually experiencing the presence of God. Now, it’s not that God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit are absent from worship. They are not. It’s that no space is left to intentionally experience their divine presence.

 

Spiritual Affiliation Has Increased

People assumed that when the pandemic ended that people would automatically return to church and sanctuaries would be full. That didn’t happen in most congregations. In my book, Forging a New Path, I compared COVID-19 to the Bubonic Plague. The plague’s impact on medieval Christians taught us how crises often lead to new ways of connecting with the divine. When traditional structures faltered in medieval Europe, lay movements and personal encounters with God flourished. In fact, the spiritual but not religious movement was born. This is an interesting historical parallel to where we are right now in our post-pandemic world.

Then as now people yearn for meaning and purpose. Yet, then as now, the church wasn’t providing the experience of the divine. This presents an opportunity: Study after study shows that humans are hardwired for meaning and purpose. Both our souls and our cells are created to experience the transcendent. Even non-religious people are wired for ultimate purpose and meaning.

This is good news. The God of the Bible is a God of direct encounters. We can reclaim this aspect of the Bible and guide people towards direct encounters with God today. This shift will benefit everyone, including those who are already part of our congregations, and those who are not.

 

What is Spirituality?

We talk a lot about being spiritual. But what does it really mean? I like to turn to a well-known passage in Ezekiel (37:1-10) that speaks of Ezekiel’s vision of dry bones coming alive through God’s breath. You may recall that in both Hebrew and Greek, the word for breath is also translated as Spirit. Thus, spirituality is being aware of God’s very real presence within us. A presence that is as real and as immediate as the breath.

In Christianity, spirituality may be expressed in three forms: personal, communal, and visionary spirituality.

Personal Spirituality is experiencing God’s presence in a way that fosters a sense of individual worth and belonging. As you engage in personal spirituality, you come away with the distinct sense that “I matter.”

Communal Spirituality is participating in a community that is founded in personal spirituality and woven together by increased love and support. As you engage in communal spirituality, you gain the distinct sense that “we matter.”

Visionary Spirituality is recognizing the collective impact that your lives can have on others. This awareness then becomes a shared mission. As you engage in visionary spirituality, you gain the distinct sense that “y’all matter.”

 

Re-Building Community

By listening to the “spiritual but not religious” movement and cultivating authentic spiritual experiences, the church can re-build a sense of community. This doesn’t require abandoning tradition, but rather reclaiming what has always been part of the church’s tradition: direct experiences with the divine. As you create spaces for individuals to connect with God and each other in meaningful ways, be prepared for a fresh wind of the Spirit.

By embracing the power of personal, communal, and visionary spirituality, the church can lead the way in re-building a sense of community and of belonging. I would love to hear your thoughts or questions on spirituality as the key to re-building community in post-pandemic and post-disaffiliation churches. Sign up for a discovery session here.

I have one more option for you. If you want to discover how you, too, can tap into your soul’s spiritual intelligence as a conscious leader, then please join me in a free 60-minute seminar, Elevate Your Ministry: An Invitation to the Power of Conscious Leadership. In this seminar I will introduce you to a new program that I am very excited about, Conscious Leadership! Come discover how you can move towards Jesus’ call of being Salt and Light for the those around you.

 

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Mastering the Art of Listening

Mastering the Art of Listening

Listening stands at the foundation of effective leadership in ministry. As a spiritual leader, your ability to listen strengthens your connections. It opens the door to spiritual growth and understanding. Through an intentional listening practice, you can discern your people’s needs, and respond to them with compassion and wisdom. Mastering the art of listening can strengthen your ministry and make a positive difference in the lives of those you serve.

In this blog, I will explore the impact of active listening, and provide practical insights to enhance this skill in your spiritual and communal journey. Join me as we uncover the transformative power of mastering the art of listening, and its ability to enrich our spiritual lives.

 

Listening in Ministry

Listening is an indispensable part of effective leadership. It enables you to comprehend your community’s needs. If you listen with an open mind, you will better understand the struggles, needs, and spiritual journeys of your community. This understanding allows you to tailor your ministry accordingly, creating a safe and inclusive space. Through this deep listening, you can build empathy and meaningful relationships within your ministry.

Mastering the Art of Listening: Make a conscious effort to actively listen during meetings, services, and interactions with the members of your spiritual community. Take note of how this practice enhances your understanding and connection within the community. Don’t simply wait for your turn to speak. Focus on hearing and understanding the perspectives of others.

 

Listening as a Spiritual Practice

Listening as a spiritual practice transcends mere skill. It is an action that connects you to divine guidance. Attentive listening opens you to the subtle whispers of spiritual wisdom in your interactions, revealing deep insights and understanding. By cultivating the art of listening to God, you establish a sacred connection with the world around you. The practice allows you to be present to the needs and experiences of others. You honor their inherent worth and value, and find connection within yourself to how God is speaking through them. Incorporating listening as a spiritual practice into your daily life invites you to slow down and be fully present.

Mastering the Art of Listening: Incorporate daily reflective practices and mindful listening into your spiritual routine. Set aside regular time for quiet reflection. Pay attention to the powerful insights and connections that emerge from these moments of stillness. Ask yourself what emotional or spiritual filters you bring. Even better, what are you hearing from God? These questions can help guide your listening as a spiritual practice.

 

Listening and Conflict Resolution

As a leader, you are the spiritual guide to conflict resolution. Conflict is never resolved without listening. It requires being fully present and attentive. In order to truly understand the perspectives of others involved in the conflict, you must listen carefully. Conflict is a part of life, and if you fear it, you won’t be open to actively listen. Without active listening, there will be disconnect and further separation. Active listening demonstrates respect and validation for the other person’s feelings and opinions. By actively listening, we create a safe space for open dialogue and encourage a collaborative approach to conflict resolution.

Mastering the Art of Listening: Next time you encounter a conflict, practice active listening by fully engaging with the other person’s perspective. Pay attention to nonverbal cues and ask questions to clarify and deepen your understanding. Notice how this approach can help diffuse tension and lead to productive resolution. Don’t be afraid of the conflict. See it as an opportunity to engage in active listening and to learn about the needs of your spiritual community.

 

Mastering the transformative art of listening profoundly impacts your ministry, relationships, and spiritual growth. By cultivating this skill, you become more attuned to the needs and experiences of your spiritual community. Active listening invites you to immerse yourself in the stories of others, enriching your perspective and strengthening your bond to your community. It may not always be easy, but it is crucial to set aside our need to talk and acknowledge that we can improve as listeners.

That is why I invite you to join my upcoming Readiness 4 Renewal seminar. Through six 90-minute online sessions, you will use four specific leadership skills that promote renewal: Group Culture Awareness, Powerful Reframing, Clarifying your Call, and Gaining Alignment. These skills will help you explore the impact of group dynamics, expand your emotional intelligence and empathy, equip and empower others for community engagement, and envision your next steps toward creating a culture of renewal. All of this will lead to better listening and a stronger connection to your community. Join me and learn the power of listening in promoting renewal in our churches!

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Spirituality and the Pastor’s Dilemma

Spirituality and the Pastor’s Dilemma

Finding meaning and purpose in a world that values success and productivity above all else can be challenging. As a leader, you face the challenge of staying connected to your spiritual source while meeting the needs and expectations of those around you. Balancing these needs is the pastor’s dilemma.

You’ve experienced the highs of ministry – those moments when each interaction feels purposeful, each meeting productive, each worship service inspired, and each vision propels the church forward. However, along with the highs of ministry, you have also experienced the lows of ministry: not enough sleep, or support, or forward momentum, or exercise, or private time, or vacation, or money, or fun. Or, most importantly, not enough personal time with God. This too is the pastor’s dilemma.

Here’s the pastor’s dilemma put a different way. Can you afford to focus on your own spiritual health at the expense of the needs of the church? Can you afford not to?

 

Making Spirituality a Non-Negotiable Endeavor

It is crucial to remember that your spiritual journey is a lifelong pursuit. Like all important relationships, your personal connection with God requires regular attention and nurturing. When you make investing in this intimate relationship a non-negotiable, you become better able to navigate the pastor’s dilemma. By embracing spirituality, you’ll find that it is possible to nurture your own soul while guiding others on their spiritual paths.

So how do you find the time to embrace your own spiritual journey? I find that when I dedicate time each day for prayer and meditation, it gets easier. First, I’m building a habit that is connected to the time of day. Second, I am experiencing a newfound soul-connection that I come to crave every day. This makes me want to come back for more. I recommend establishing a particular time of day to spend one on one time with God. It doesn’t matter if it’s morning, midday, or night. God is present and available 24/7. Simply choose the time that works best, and most consistently, for you.

The pastor’s dilemma asks, “How do you pursue the spiritual journey?” Here are some things I do: immersing myself in nature walks, reflective writing, two-way prayer, and using questions based on the Examen. There’s always the wonderful Wesleyan question, too: “How is it with your soul?” This simple yet profound question opens the door for honest reflections and meaningful discussions about your spiritual well-being. The important thing is to find practices that draw you deeper into the presence of God.

As a spiritual leader, I have witnessed firsthand the incredible power of nurturing deep spirituality. The more I focused on my spirituality, the more I was naturally led to teach about it, preach about it, and invite others into the journey. Turns out they were as hungry for spiritual sustenance as I was. Embracing spiritual practices not only rejuvenated my soul but also positivly impacted my community of faith.

I think you’ll find this too. As you delve deeper into your own spirituality, you will create ripples of change that extend beyond yourself, influencing your interactions, emotions, decisions, and energy in your spaces. As you do this, you not only transform the pastor’s dilemma, you transform other people’s dilemmas too. They need the spiritual connection as much as you do.

As you deepen your spiritual connection, I encourage you not to be stingy. Share authentically about your own journey and I think you’ll be glad to find that others want to join you.

I invite you to join me on this transformative journey. In Creating a Culture of Renewal®, we explore together how deepening your spirituality can enrich your life and the lives of your congregation. You are also welcome to join me at one of my free upcoming seminars, How Christian Ministries are Achieving Success: An Introduction to Creating a Culture of Renewal®. Through meaningful conversations, we can uncover the profound impacts that spirituality can make, fostering growth, connection, and transformation.

And, if you’d like to connect individually, my team and I would be happy to hear from you. To reach out to us, simply fill out this short form and we’ll be in touch!  I look forward to hearing from you.

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Jesus – The Visionary Leader

Jesus – The Visionary Leader

Jesus’ leadership transcended traditional concepts, embracing a Kingdom-oriented vision that defied societal norms. In a day in which leadership was often about power over others, Jesus distinguished himself by prioritizing eternal values and the betterment of humanity. This blog explores the exceptional qualities that made Jesus the ultimate visionary leader.

 

Emotional Intelligence

His unwavering commitment to serving others was at the core of Jesus’ leadership. Jesus led by example, demonstrating the power of compassion and empathy through his interactions with people from all walks of life. 

Jesus’ leadership style revealed a remarkable ability to connect with people from all backgrounds, regardless of social status. He inspired and empowered his followers with exceptional interpersonal skills through his teachings and actions. His emphasis on love and forgiveness exemplified his emotional intelligence, transcending time and cultural boundaries.

You will see that his visions expanded beyond what I call “church improvement plans.” For example, Jesus didn’t spend much time envisioning how to strengthen Galilean synagogues or build a better stewardship campaign. His dreams weren’t even about how to get more people to follow him. Instead, Jesus’ visions focused on the big picture: “Thy Kingdom come, thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven.”

Jesus’ vision was never to establish a well-ordered institution but to build a community of believers who would continue his work and spread his message of love and salvation.

 

Spiritual Entrepreneur

The fact that Jesus never intended to establish a well-ordered Church improvement plan should be great news to leaders. It means that leadership is not about rigidly following rules or implementing a prescribed strategy. Instead, it is about embodying the values and teachings of Jesus. This allows leaders to embrace their unique style and approach, empowering them to connect with their followers on a deeper level and create a genuine impact.

Jesus utilized visionary spiritual leadership to inspire and transform individuals, communities, and the world. So far, you might have had experience as a counselor, a shepherd, or a manager. But visionary spiritual leadership? That’s a whole new ballgame. It’s something you may not have encountered before. It calls you to take your current experience one step further into spiritual entrepreneur.

Stepping into the role of a spiritual entrepreneur means embracing a path of self-discovery, growth, and service. It is about recognizing the innate connection between your spiritual journey and your entrepreneurial endeavors. As a spiritual entrepreneur, you will strive to align your work with your values, purpose, and higher consciousness. To trust that you have the spiritual connection to envision a new future. And the authority to lead your people toward it. I sense that most of you do. If you are anything like me, you are here because you need more encouragement about your spiritual authority to dream big.

 

Spiritual Authority

Just as the words of Jesus held immense power, so do yours. As a spiritual entrepreneur, you possess the authority and ability to speak visions into existence. Faith, courage, and perseverance can transform God’s vision for your ministry into a tangible reality. Trusting in this authority is crucial in becoming an effective visionary leader, much like Jesus. This is not merely a “name it and claim it” theology but a reflection on the importance of faith and belief in the transformative power of your words. By embracing this understanding, you will embark on a creative and generative journey that breathes life into your aspirations.

In the same way, Jesus had the vision, authority, and determination to bring about transformation on a global scale. As his follower, you are called to continue his legacy by embracing the unique visions that God has given you. By trusting in your spiritual authority and embodying the values of Jesus, you can become a visionary leader who positively impacts your community.

Be encouraged! Embrace the visionary leadership style of Jesus. To make this happen it’s essential to let go of self-doubt and fear, and fully embrace the spiritual authority given to you.  By doing this, you enter the realm of the miraculous and initiate the wondrous process of co-creating miracles with the divine. You can inspire and guide your team and community toward a greater purpose.

Join one of my upcoming seminars, “How Christian Ministries Achieve Success: An Introduction to Creating a Culture of Renewal®.” In this seminar, you will delve deeper into the leadership principles of Jesus and learn practical strategies to overcome barriers that hinder leaders from fully embracing His vision in their ministries. Or, if you’re ready to take your visionary leadership to the next level, embrace your spiritual authority and expand your emotional intelligence, join me and other like-minded colleagues, for my new online group coaching experience, Readiness 4 Renewal.  Together, let us, with Jesus at the helm, cultivate a culture of renewal and transformation in our leadership.

 

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How to Lead with Influence and Impact

How to Lead with Influence and Impact

Leadership is an essential aspect of every congregational community. As a leader, you set the tone for how the congregation functions. However, even the most faithful congregation could become divisive, chaotic, or unproductive without effective leadership. One of the often-overlooked characteristics of effective leaders is emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence (EI) refers to how well you manage your own emotions and responses and react to those of others. Leaders with high EI can foster an environment of trust, respect, and cooperation, leading to a harmonious and effective congregation.

All this is to say that an emotionally intelligent leader knows how to lead with influence and impact.

Want to become an emotionally intelligent leader? It all begins with being self-aware of your own emotions and understanding how they impact those around you.

Over the years, I have helped countless people discover how to lead better with emotional intelligence. One of the ways I have done this is by helping leaders develop a deeper sense of self-awareness through the DiSC® model.

This model offers a unique perspective on how you function by examining your ways of being through different behavioral dimensions: Dominance, Influence, Steadiness, and Conscientiousness. Each domain represents a preferred style of behavior, and understanding these preferences can greatly enhance emotional intelligence in the context of your leadership, allowing you to tailor your leadership approach to meet the diverse needs of your congregation.

Let’s explore how emotional intelligence and the DiSC® model work hand in hand to empower congregational leaders and create a thriving community.

 

Strategies for Developing Emotional Intelligence in Congregational Leaders

Like most skills, the good news is that EI can be developed and honed over time. Here are some strategies that you, as a church leader, can use to improve your EI skills:

1) Practice mindfulness and self-awareness to better understand your own thoughts, feelings, and emotions.

Mindfulness and self-awareness are essential to greater understanding of yourself. Instead of reacting to worries or intrusive thoughts, you can observe them. Becoming aware of how your body copes with what you’re feeling helps to acknowledge the feeling with more clarity and embrace better solutions. You learn to understand yourself objectively and nonjudgmentally.

 

2) Understand the emotions of others by practicing active listening, seeking feedback, and managing and regulating emotions-leveraging them to build deep relationships with congregants and community.

If you want to understand the feelings and perspectives of congregants, it’s essential to practice active listening. This decreases assumptions and increases understanding. Plus, it encourages further conversation. Gathering feedback can also help to form an in-depth picture of emotions. A great way to manage and recognize feelings is through emotion regulation. Learning about the nuances of emotions can be beneficial when building relationships with congregants. Leveraging insight into emotions deepens connections and helps eliminate communication obstacles.

 

3) Enhance communication by controlling non-verbal signals and being empathetic towards others.

Developing your capacity for empathy can play an integral role in improving communication. Listening actively to what others are saying without jumping to conclusions can help ensure full understanding between both parties. Controlling nonverbal cues also has a big impact — facial expressions, body posture, and hand motions add meaningful context to conversations and should be considered during exchanges. These unspoken cues are present not just in your direct communications with others, but also in your worship leadership experiences.

 

4) Encourage conflict resolution by creating opportunities for congregants to express themselves and work towards a mutual solution.

Ensuring everyone feels heard and acknowledged is key to effective conflict resolution. Congregants must be able to express their thoughts and feelings freely in a safe space. By doing so, congregations can more easily move toward mutually acceptable solutions. Creating an atmosphere conducive to peace-making is essential. Encouraging community members to work together toward resolution not only helps strengthen relationships and grow trust among peers but will also foster an environment of understanding and unity.

 

Effective leadership is the glue that holds a congregation together. While strong EI skills alone won’t solve all your challenges as a leader, they will go a long way toward creating a harmonious and productive congregational culture. A leader with high EI can communicate and empathize well with their congregants, handle conflict, and build transformative relationships. So, you should strive to cultivate EI in yourself, your colleagues, and the congregation you serve, to deepen your connections and lead more effectively.

If you’re ready to take the next step in developing your emotional intelligence and becoming a fully formed leader, I invite you to explore the power of the DiSC® model further. Join our Creating a Culture of Renewal® cohort where you’ll learn about the DiSC® dimensions and gain valuable insights and practical tools to become an emotionally intelligent leader. Creating a Culture of Renewal® is an award-winning three-year program designed to help you navigate the complexities of congregational leadership and empower you to create a culture of renewal within your community.

Register for our free How Christian Ministries are Achieving Success: An Introduction to Creating a Culture of Renewal® seminar to learn more.

Together, we can create thriving congregations led by emotionally intelligent leaders, who positively impact the lives of those around them.

 

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The Power of Spoken Word in Shaping Congregational Culture

The Power of Spoken Word in Shaping Congregational Culture

Words hold immense power to shape your reality and influence those around you. When it comes to your congregation, the way you communicate can make or break the culture you create. You can unleash the power of words to create a remarkable and thriving environment.

 

The Divine, Church, and Discipleship

Whenever you communicate the faith, you say something about God, the church, and discipleship. Whether you think you are or not. Remember the last sermon or devotional you preached or heard to understand better how your words can have transformational power. Your words have an impact on how the congregation sees themselves and God. You should strive to use language that speaks to your congregants, affirms them, and challenges them towards growth in their faith.

 

The Role of Spoken Words in Congregational Culture

Communication is the most fundamental tool through which leaders and congregants establish relationships, build trust, and foster connection within the congregation. The way language is used can be powerful in uplifting and motivating the congregation or can bring it down and create division. Many may not imagine the weight of their spoken words and how they influence their congregational culture. Spoken words can shape collective thought, inspire change, and motivate the group to act decisively toward certain values, beliefs, and practices.

 

How to Use Words to Foster a Positive Culture

Using words that foster positive culture requires knowing your audience. Leaders must know the language used and how it affects their congregation. Here are some tips for communicating with your congregation:

  1. Connect powerfully by listening first – understand your congregation before responding and build meaningful connections between leaders and followers. To establish powerful connections, it is essential to prioritize listening. Before responding, take the time to understand your congregation truly. Doing so can bridge any existing divides and foster open dialogue through attentive listening and interconnected communications. Embrace the foundation of relationship building by showing genuine curiosity about who they are and how their daily environment operates. This approach enables effective communication and strengthens the bonds between leaders and followers.

 

  1. Master the art of pace – strike the perfect balance between words and silence, giving people time to process your message. Taking a momentary pause can greatly enhance the effectiveness of your message. Mastering the art of pacing and striking the right balance between speaking and silence allows your words to sink in. The speed at which you convey your thoughts can significantly influence how they resonate with others, potentially leading to lasting impressions and driving change. Finding that perfect middle ground bridges communication gaps and allows listeners to absorb and process what you’re saying. So, remember to choose your words carefully and deliver them at the ideal pace.

 

  1. Speak with clarity and brevity – use words that resonate with everyone in your congregation, regardless of age or background. Brevity and clarity can help maintain fluency and focus. Choose your words with care. Make sure they all matter, each having purpose and power to ensure everybody feels something when you communicate. Crafting your language this way enables a connection across the entire room and sends messages into the hearts of those who need it most.

 

A positive environment is key to a healthy and productive congregation. Leaders must intentionally create welcoming, respectful spaces and foster positive communication.

I have seen countless leaders who have a heart for mission and who think strategically but have not yet had the opportunity to learn how to use their words in a way that shapes and strengthens their congregational culture. As leaders, it is our responsibility to be intentional with words chosen, and to strive for clarity of intention in everything that is communicated. In Creating a Culture of Renewal®, you are committed to helping church leaders find their voice and the power of your words. You equip leaders with communication skills that uplift and inspire. God’s message can be effectively conveyed in any congregation with the right words.

If you have a passion like me for effective communication, then let me invite you to my upcoming seminar, How Christian Ministries are Achieving Success: An Introduction to Creating a Culture of Renewal®. It will help you as a leader to use language to shape your congregational culture intentionally. I look forward to meeting you there!

 

 

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